Hello lovely people
I keep an eye on books and websites about widowhood as part of my business.
The one thing that often strikes me is how many people believe that being widowed is about struggling through the experience from one hour to the next, and eventually from one day to the next. They keep doing this in the hope that the pain and the emptiness will go away.
Every time when I read anything like that, I wonder how those people would feel if they stop hitting their heads against a brickwall. When you think that is the only way, you will continue to hit your head against the wall, and you will complain about headaches, and get much sympathy.
How would you react if somebody tells you that it is OK to stop hitting your head and that when you do so, the pain will stop?
Granted, my book does not contain the normal advice on widowhood, because I do not see widowed people as victims of circumstances. Widowed people are on a spiritual fast path. They can deny this and fight their spirituality, or they can accept a different view of the world and find their balance so much sooner.
Anthony Robbins said “If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten.”
How about deciding today that you will stop doing the things that give you so much pain, and step back and understand why you needed to experience the pain, and then move on?
It is possible. You are in charge of your life.
Love and Light
Elsabe