Hello Lovely People
Nothing lets us remember a departed loved one like the holiday season.
Families tend to get together on holidays, even when they do not quite get on, and even when otherwise they would not visit one another. Because of this, the absence of a family member becomes even more prominent during the holiday season.
How do you celebrate the holidays once your loved one has departed?
You will like this answer: you follow your heart.
Some people may want to remember the deceased person with a toast or with an empty seat. Other people may prefer to savour their memories in private. Others may choose not to remember anything specifically and even change traditions to suit them.
However you celebrate your holidays is good for you. You do not need to meet the expectations of other people. You need to do what you can cope with and what you feel comfortable with.
If you feel that the happiness of those around you get too much at times, you can do different things. You can remind yourself of those happy days that you had with the deceased person. Those days are not gone. They are etched into your memory for ever. You can access and re-live them at any time. And if you need to cry, then don’t hold back. But remember to also celebrate the life of the person you loved.
If your experience with the deceased one was not a happy one and you would rather forget it, then do exactly that. Replace unhapppy memories with a happy present, and do what you have always wanted to do to please the five-year-old child inside of yourself. That child needs much love, and you are the only person who can give the love.
Above all, know that you are never alone. You are always protected and you are loved.
Love and Light
Elsabe